Every time I come here, I see my description of myself to the right as femme, and I ask myself, does that really describe me? I guess it depends on your definition of femme. I was once described as “sporty femme” by a friend of mine, but I am not sporty at all. If you think of a person who hates sports a lot, look even further past them, because there I’ll be 😉 I like to shoot some hoops from time to time in the back yard, but ask me to watch a game with you, and I will probably fall asleep on the spot!
If your definition of femme is someone who wears high fashion clothes, skirts, high heels, and lots of make-up, well that isn’t me at all! I wear a little make up, but I can’t stand high heels or skirts/dresses. I think I have my own style – one that definitely leans more toward the feminine than the masculine. D is the same way, only she used to wear high heels and skirts all the time until the heels basically killed her feet and she had to get surgery.
My questions for you are:
What do you picture when someone says they are femme?
What do you picture when someone says they are butch?
Do you get mad when you meet a person and they don’t fit the definition they described themselves as?
Do you use them to describe yourself?
Do you think these are just labels and shouldn’t be used at all?